Sunday, May 25, 2014

Exercises in Humility

On a Saturday night whim I find myself standing on the blue carpet of a gymnastics play house. I’m watching ten year olds pull off flawless flips, tucks and turns. My companion is also quite the aerial artist, even though it’s been years since he’s jumped on a trampoline. The teenage guys, who have year round passes, make even the ten year olds look goofy. They pull off doubles and triples of whatever combination they try without exuding any kind of effort. Then it’s my turn. Bouncing as high as I can I attempt what I hope will be a cool looking flip. Springing as high as I can into the air, I tuck my legs in and hope for the best. As I pass the pinnacle of my leap, I panic. Pulling out of the turn I land head first in the foam pit. My feet are poking out of the pit. And by poking out I mean I sunk so far into the foam pit that the only thing above the surface of the foam is the standard sock length of foot. I have succeeded in coolness, but not as I had hoped. I hear my buddy’s laughter, as well as that of a few ten year olds. They clapped a little too. Deep in the foam fit, I fight the oncoming wave of embarrassment. I try kicking my way out of the foam pit. Bad choice. Chortling ensues. Catching a bird’s eye view of what just happened, plus the ridiculous amount of effort it takes to move surrounded by plush foamy blocks, I crack a smile and start laughing too. Bare feet still straight up. I’m the worst gymnast in the house. It’s okay because we’re there to have fun. And OH are we having fun J

The joy of fitness is finding out what you can do with it. Despite my yoga, powerlifting, boxing and cardio classes I can’t hold a candle to a ten year old gymnast. What I can do, is bounce for an hour and be smirk and chortle entertaining. Especially when recorded on slow-mo video. I’m terribly hilarious. As it turns out I lack the natural grace essential to gymnastics. Or, as I like to remind myself, I have not practiced anything gymnastic like since college. Which isn’t saying much. I think I got pommeled by a horse once or twice. I may never be a tenth of the gymnast my mother was, or half as good as a ten year old, but that doesn’t have to spoil the joy of trying unfamiliar things. Except when you replay how bad you look in slow-mo, because even you are trying to figure out what you were thinking.

The unfortunate thing about looking at video of yourself, is looking at video of yourself. Not only are you aware of the embarrassing things you’ve attempted, but you also notice your body shape. Even though I workout often, my body is still not the shape I want it to be. It has the function I want it to have: the ability to try anything for an hour, but shape is still elusive. Looking at a video of my own physical activity I notice the things I thought were bigger, but are small; the bigger things I want smaller; how ridiculous my hair looks and I wonder why I wasn’t wearing shorts. Oh yeah, spur of the moment. The video was an ample reminder that there’s no such thing as perfection. I might be really good at other things, but I will never be great at everything. And my friend has the video evidence J

Fast forward to my next workout. Having seen the ‘imbalances’ of my body, I set about to correct them, while at the same time not giving up the functionality I desire. My typical Monday involves boxing plus other exercises. Boxing is at least something I am good at. There’s a sense of pride knowing you can do something well. After boxing, and a session of pride building, I set about to work on those ‘other’ things. I’ve decided the best bang for my buck is Tabata intervals: six to eight sets of twenty seconds on, ten seconds off. Knowing I’m weak in the areas I’m about to practice, I pick six sets, but have high hopes. I’m going to do one full set of pull-ups, then push-ups and bench dips.

The best space to do this at my gym is the free standing power lifting cages. The space isn’t too large, but it’s a favorite of the trainers at my gym; they train all kinds of clients in this space. This morning a trainer is training two female clients in the area. Because of spacing issues, I’ll have to be near one of them. About a meter and a half away. Which is close, but not too close. I set my timer on the ground, press go and start doing pull-ups. My shirt comes up. Apparently it’s not long enough to touch my shorts when I raise my arms over my head. Should have thought about that when I got dressed this morning. Clothing Fail. At least I can do the exercise well. Or maybe not. Turns out pull-up Tabata intervals are really good at making you not able to do pull-ups. By the fourth set I could only do one pull-up, then had to hang there for another ten plus seconds until the timer ran out. Exercise Fail. Did I mention the girl across from me is doing squats AND she’s facing me? Spacing Fail. Yep, that’s a sight you want to see. A guy struggling to do pull-ups, directly in front of you, while you’re trying to do squats AND his shirt doesn’t completely cover his lower abdominals. Awkward. SO awkward. At least they knew I could box well.

The push-ups weren’t as traumatizing, but they weren’t pretty. Yet again I discovered the humility of Tabata intervals. You start out strong, but by the end of your repetitions you’re tired, sweaty and struggling. And doing push-ups on your knees. Which is in no way considered manly. I think there’s an unwritten man rule about knee push-ups, a rule I break when I have to but don’t enjoy doing so. Kneeling during push-ups is a confession of weakness, but as I remind myself, it’s a sign of strength. You do what you can do, then you humble yourself, pushing your muscles to grow. Dips were a similar story: started out easy, ended up hard. There’s nothing fun about struggling in a basic body weight exercise, the only reward is the knowledge the next time you try you will be stronger. That’s the power of humility. Growing in strength by pressing forward through weakness.

Tabata intervals are an exercise in humility; you simply go until you can’t. They aren’t flashy. They are frustrating. But it’s worth it. I will gladly do these exercises again, hopefully without placing myself in a potentially socially embarrassing situation. I say potentially embarrassing, because even though I was mortified, something odd happened. The trainer’s two female trainees, neither of which was in peak physical condition, actually seemed encouraged. Instead of being creeped out. Like watching me struggle to complete basic exercises empowered them. Like watching someone else struggle validates your own struggling and somehow makes it easier.

When I think of the spiritual life, humility is the workout that’s done only for the benefits: not because it looks cool, is easy to do, or helps you gain social standing. Humility lowers our pride, reminding us that the basics of life are hard. Humility gets us back to the basics. To the things that are essential, but often overlooked.

The foundation of the Christian spiritual path, is Jesus. What I find incredible about Jesus? He was humble AND he was a spiritual leader. There are too many spiritual leaders in the word today who lack humility. Leaders who would not submit themselves to being photographed or videoed when they don’t look their best. Who try too hard to cover up any signs of weakness, instead of embracing humility and its surprising ability to empower and encourage.

What image of Jesus am I referring to? You can read the short narrative in Matthew chapter 26, from verse 36 through verse 44. It’s a stark contrast to the images of power we see today. It’s an image of humility.

In this story Jesus says to his disciples, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.” Jesus, who is God incarnate, asks his disciples to help him during his distress. Jesus asks for help. He asks his friends to support him. He doesn’t call for angels. He doesn’t call for the heroes of the faith. He asks a few men to be with him during his hour of need.

Going a little farther away from them, he falls with his face to the ground. He prays, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.” This cup he’s referring to is his crucifixion. It’s not out of pride that Jesus is willing to endure being nailed to a cross and mocked until he dies. It’s humility. He’s willing to go that far to do God’s will. He asks, if possible, that he doesn’t have to do it. Jesus is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death because he knows how hard it will be. It means being separated from his Father. He’s afraid of not being able to see his Father’s face. For he knows that when he hangs on the cross for our sins, God will turn away from him. He’s willing to endure separation, because he’s willing to do his Father’s will, not his own. Even though he deeply loves the Father, calling him ‘my Father’ he’s willing to be separated.

Jesus returns from his prayers to check his disciples. Not the other way around. He finds them sleeping. He asks Peter, “Could you not watch with me for one hour? Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak.” Jesus returns and prays again. “My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.” He’s accepting what is about to come, even though it’s deeply troubled his soul. It’s touched him at his very core. It has shaken him to the point of falling on his face, asking his friends to lookout for him, crying out to God if there are any other options. There are none.

Jesus comes back to his disciples a second time. Finding them sleeping, because their eyes are heavy, he leaves them again to pray. He lets them rest; his human help has failed him. For the third time, Jesus cries out to God for the same thing: take the cup, but not my will, yours. He does this for the third time, showing how desperate he is and that there is no other way. He totally is troubled in his soul and totally devoted to following his Father’s will. When Jesus goes to the cross their will be no grand pronouncements. No final theological dialogues. Just death and separation from the Father.

Christians do not worship Jesus because he died a humiliating death, but because he rose again. That Jesus chose to die on the cross is a sign of his humility. That he knew how hard it was going to be, and did it anyway. That he went to the cross, and suffered, and died alone. This is depth of his humility. Even if we only think of Jesus as a great thinker, he didn’t deserve that kind of death.

Jesus’s humility shows four things: the depth of his emotion, his request for friends’ help, his plea to God, and his commitment to do his Father’s will. I put my faith in Jesus because he understands push-ups on the knees admissions of weakness. He doesn’t look down on me because I am weak, he encourages me by his example. He doesn’t exalt himself because he’s the son of God; instead he lifts me up, giving me strength to continue, even though I embarrass myself while attempting to grow. Through Jesus, I do not give up. I press onwards. Straining towards what is yet seen, sure of the hope that is to come. My hope is built on Jesus, that through him and by him I have life. This makes me smile, and encourages me to continue. I hope it does the same for you.

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